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How do I set boundaries with my in-laws who constantly meddle in our decisions, show up unannounced, and criticize our routines without causing family drama?

I’m really struggling with something in my relationship and could use your advice. My partner and I just aren’t talking like we used to. It feels like we’re both holding back—either we avoid tough topics, or when we do talk, it’s like we’re not really hearing each other. I’ll try to say how I’m feeling, but it comes out wrong, or they get defensive, and we just end up frustrated. Sometimes I don’t even bring things up because I’m worried it’ll start a fight. It’s making me feel disconnected, and I’m not sure how to fix it. What do you think I should do to get us communicating better? Any tips to break through this wall we’ve built?

My spouse's family keeps meddling in our daily decisions, from how we manage our household budget to what we cook for dinner. They drop by without warning, rearrange things in our home, and constantly offer "helpful" suggestions that feel like criticism. Even though we're adults with our own routines, it's straining our relationship—how can we establish some healthy distance while keeping the peace?

I have a great job opportunity in another city, but my partner doesn't want to leave their current job and friends. We're at a standstill and I don't know how to move forward. Any advice on how to handle this without resentment?

My parents still treat me like a child even though I'm married and have my own life. They call constantly, show up unannounced, and give unsolicited advice on everything from finances to our home decor. How can I set boundaries respectfully?

Ever since I had my baby, my friends who don't have kids have started to drift away. They don't invite me out as much, and when we do talk, it feels like we have nothing in common anymore. I'm feeling really lonely. Has anyone gone through this?